dead end signs

recieved a quote from emers last Sept 3. 2006... Wala lang, just want to share and reflect on it...

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"I like DEAD END signs...

I think they're kind...

They at least have the decency

to let you know you're going nowhere..."

- BUGS BUNNY

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Yap indeed true...
Better than what most people are doing...

Nakakainis ang umasa dahil madalas nakakasakit ito ng damdamin whether its friends or a commitment...

Nakakainis isipin na sometimes, those people you expected to be there for you, sila pa ang wala, out of sight... Wala man lamang notice kung bakit ganito, ganyan, parang bula nalang nawawala... Ewan... nakakafrustrate lang... Mabuti pa ang ibang tao, they unexpectedly show some concern na kamustahin ka for no reason... At least may nakausap ka kahit papano...

Sa commitment naman, Kung hindi mo mahal ang isang tao, you shouldn't keep that person just because you're getting something from him/her in return... yun tipong, just keeping that person because of the benefits/gains your having like:

• there would be someone na manlilibre sayo,
• anytime would be there for you if you need someone na pwede kang samahan to do this and that,
• na gagawa ng things para sayo though you could do it etc...

Nakakainis ang ganun kasi its giving false hopes sa taong umaaasa na mamahalin in return kahit wala naman talagang feelings na speacial... Sana sabihin na lang na ayaw mo sakanya, that you're not feeling the same as he do, na hangang friends lang etc...

Pero kahit friends lang, ang pangit pa din minsan dahil that person will still hope that he could gain the love of his beloved, susuyuin ulit and the other party may send wrong signals, wrong impression that empowers false hopes to that person...

Mas maganda nga na sinasabi ng prangkahan... At kahit masakit sa una dahil diretchan, at least hindi ka naman nag-aantay lang sa wala. At least hindi ka nagmumukhang tanga. Sometimes kasi, the problem is that,

we have the dilemma to tell the truth na ayaw na natin sa isang tao

or in case of those people with relationship - that you gave up na because of this and that reasons etc. I think kasi some people are afraid to break the heart of the person they "love" kasi they can see the happiness of the significant other. Pero isn't it selfish that you're keeping the person kahit ayaw mo na... Isn't it more unfair for the person because you're concealing the truth from her... Its cheating her twice... Masakit malaman in the end na matagal na palang ayaw sayo ng isang tao, hindi man lamang niya sinasabi sayo... Masakit yun grabe...

Yung sa huli, isusupalpal sa mukha mo na matagal na palang "the feeling is gone" or matagal na siyang nakapag-decide na tapusin na ang relationship dahil "mahihirapan siya, nasasakay etc." pero pilit parinniyang itinatago kasi ayaw ka niyang masaktan or sasabihin sayo na "kasi masaya ka kaya i decided to delay the confrontation."

What kind of reason is this? napaka-selfish...

Masakit isipin na in the most unexpected time ka pa nila iiwan sa ere ng walang warning... Para kang ibon na tinanggalan ng pakpak at hindi makalipad - ito marahil ang kahalintulad ng isang taong iniwan ng biglaan... Hindi man lamang nakipag-usap ng matino, isasambulat na lang sayo na ayaw ko na kasi ganyan, ganito... Madaming binabanggit to rationalize the "pang-iiwan." Mas masakit pa lalo e dun sa mga nakarinig pa ng panunumbat, o 'di kanais nais na mga pananalita tulad ng paninisi - na ikaw kasi e atbp...

Nakakatawa lang kasi mag-iisip ka ng malalim if you did something wrong that caused the relationship to fall apart, iispin mo kung talaga bang naging totoo siya sayo sa umpisa pa lang, kung talagang ninahal ka niya o niloko ka lang niya talaga, na maaring isa ka sa collection niya ng mga babae na pwede niyang ipagyabang in the future... You will feel stupid if you recalled some manifestations na ayaw na niya and this degrades your morale even more and you will view yourself as stupid because you felt betrayed and cheated and will think of "bakit hindi ko napansin yun? (signs)" Maybe because you felt happy, in cloud 9 that cuases tendency to be vigilant and alert... And then, lalo mo pang mafe-feel na ang tanga mo, na bakit ka nagpaka-tanga atbp. At lalo lamang lumuludmok sa putikan ang damdamin mo na parang kakainin ka na ng buhay. OUCH!

Mas maganda pa ang dead end signs because it speaks for itself na hanggang dito na lang... Masakit sa una dahil prangka, straignht to the point pero at least hindi ka nagmukhang tanga...
At least hindi naubos ang hope mo and pagmamahal sa sarili.

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"I like DEAD END signs...
I think they're kind...
They at least have the decency
to let you know you're going nowhere..."
- BUGS BUNNY
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